Wednesday, 3 December 2014

Premarital sex and the human tendency to interfere in everyone's personal affairs

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My personal opinion on premarital sex is that it really isn't that important a subject. Its everybody's choice. As far as I'm concerned, as long as I love him or her and/or do it willingly, it doesn't really matter. Its a personal choice. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But, most people refuse to acknowledge the fact that somebody doesn't agree with your beliefs.
They use slurs and terms such as 'immoral','indecent' and quite a few others that I'd rather not mention. If someone needs a person to warm their bed without the ring or the mangalsutra , its their choice. Why does society have to make it a point to force its own religious and moral ideals onto every single person ? 
Women are expected to be virgins till the marriage night. But, does the same rule apply to men? Never have I heard of a man being criticised for his premarital sexual encounters. But with women, its commonplace. Theyre trollops. Western ideology has affected them too much. "Her parents shouldn't have let her watch TV. Or go to work in that office. Wearing pants and skirts. The uncultured, uncouth, whore. We have to warn our boys against her."
Coming back to the point, there's nothing wrong with having a bit of fun without the burden of being married. I read an article the other day about a woman who waited till marriage and later figured out that she didn't even enjoy the act but did it because she'd promised to. What sense does that make?
Marriage is not a prerequisite to explore our own as well as other people's bodies. Some people say that if you've had premarital sex , there's a greater chance of extra marital affairs. Utterly stupid, I say. After having so many or even one or two other people, the person has chosen to stick with and marry their current partner. Out of everyone else. Premarital sex is in no way a contributing factor to extramarital affairs.
Sex is a way to feel closer to your partner. Physical intimacy is just as important as emotional. People have to be compatible in both ways for the relationship to work out.  It helps you get closer and more comfortable to your partner. One night stands are a great way to feel good. You have a splendid time with someone new and some people actually end up dating or at least being friends with their one night stands.
 If its fun,consensual, and it feels great, what's the big fucking deal ?

Thanks for bearing with me till the end of this post.
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